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Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Fiction Review: Trial by Twelve


Trial by Twelve, by Heather Day Gilbert is the second book in her Murder in the Mountains series. It’s the sequel to Miranda Warning (You can read my review here.), which I recommend you read first, though Trial by Twelve can stand on its own. 

This book starts each chapter with letters from an estranged father to his child. You don’t know either who the father is or the child—until the end of the book. Then, the story is told. Tess works at the Crystal Mountain Spa in West Virginia. The spa is a tony place where the clientele can get massages, different baths and treatments, in a ritzy atmosphere—incense and candles included. Tess, married mother of a toddler, is an attractive, young, pistol packing kind of West Virginia woman. She works with elegant Dani, who’s small and fashionable. Teeny defies his name, and he’s the masseuse—and a flirt.

As backhoes arrive to install an outdoor pool, they find human remains. Unfortunately, the remains seem to multiply as you flip the pages. New bodies, old corpses, and all killed in the same way: a crossbow. Who’s the killer? Almost everyone seems like they might be. Tess’s husband becomes concerned. Why should she be hanging out in harm’s way? Several people close to her had already disappeared.

You’ll enjoy this exciting murder mystery. It’s clean and well written, and the author is a Christian from West Virginia. Trial by Twelve has an authentic feel to it. (I have a feeling the author carries, too!) There are several spa resorts in West Virginia, and I can definitely imagine one of them holding some secrets.

Four stars.
  

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Why Did God Make Me Like This?


I’d venture that 95% of all women have looked in the mirror at some time in their lives and asked this question: why? Why did God make me like I am?

Usually that question is followed by self-demeaning words or thoughts. My nose is too big. My body is pear-shaped. My hand doesn’t work. I can’t walk. I am blind and have so many hardships because of it. I am deaf, and I have to use a language most people don’t even know. I’m confined to a wheelchair. I don’t like my freckles. I got acne in my youth and have scars. I suffer from chronic pain. The list is endless!

Some of the complaints are completely understandable. People do have difficulties. A few have genuine trouble trying to live on any level of normality. Others are just picking at supposed “flaws.” Who cares how big your nose is or about your freckles? Only you. (Some of us actually like big noses and freckles. Did you know that?)

But ... almost every woman on the planet has the same problem. She asks why God made her like she is—or allowed her to have a sickness, accident, pain, or disability.

Why, indeed?

I am glad to have an answer for you. It’s maybe not something you’ve considered, because you’ve been conditioned by modern values and trends. For example, my own body shape was considered gorgeous back in the time of the ancient Greeks. It came back into style in the 1600s. (I’ve often thought I was born a few centuries too late!) I’m joking, of course.

Every single person on this earth is here for a purpose. It’s the same purpose for everyone. No one is here for any other reason. Are you curious?

Moses said, O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither heretofore, nor since thou hast spoken unto thy servant: but I am slow of speech, and of a slow tongue (Exodus 4:10). God countered, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD? Now therefore go, and I will be with thy mouth, and teach thee what thou shalt say (Exodus 4:11-12).

Joshua had very little self-confidence, yet God wanted him to lead a nation. God, through Moses, said to him, Be strong and of a good courage: for thou shalt bring the children of Israel into the land which I sware unto them: and I will be with thee (Deuteronomy 31:23).

Gideon put out a fleece twice to make doubly sure God was going to go with him.
And Gideon said unto God, If thou wilt save Israel by mine hand, as thou hast said, Behold, I will put a fleece of wool in the floor (Judges 6:36-37a). Of course, God honored his faith and made Israel victorious.

The man was born blind. The Jewish leaders accused him of sinning—or his parents. Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him (John 9:3).

The Apostle Paul tells the story of his unnamed physical problem. Yet of myself I will not glory, but in mine infirmities. For though I would desire to glory, I shall not be a fool; for I will say the truth: but now I forbear, lest any man should think of me above that which he seeth me to be, or that he heareth of me. And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong (2 Corinthians 5b-10).

So, what is our purpose? Why are we made the way we are?

This Bible passage will give us perspective: For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them (Psalm 139:13-16). From your mother’s womb, God was making you just like He wanted you to be. Your big nose, your freckles, your deformed hand, or your blind eyes were all made by Him for a holy purpose. God sees you in a very different way than we see ourselves. He made us just the way we are for a purpose.

Some girls and women are mad at God. They’re not a bit content. I can understand. Every epoch has an ideal of beauty, and when we fall short—most of us—we feel disappointed. Why am I always carrying extra pounds? Why aren’t I six feet tall and size 2? Why do I have a lopsided smile? We could go on and on. (I’ll tell you a secret: even women who meet the ideal aren’t happy with something about themselves. I’ve known a few of them.)

I think we need to switch our mind-chip from our thoughts to God’s—even about our own bodies, talents, and minds. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). Since God’s thoughts are higher and His ways are always better, we need to quit questioning them, accept the way we’re made as for a divine purpose, and actually embrace who we are. For me, that means it’s okay to be shorter, a little heavier, and not as gorgeous as my dreams. God has a reason He made me like I am!

God reveals several of His purposes in His Word:
  • ObedienceLet us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man (Ecclesiastes 12:13).
  • HolinessTo the end he may stablish your hearts unblameable in holiness before God, even our Father, at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ with all his saints (1 Thessalonians 3:13).
  • TestimonyLet your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven (Matthew 5:16).
  • Glorifying GodThat ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ (Romans 15:6). For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's (1 Corinthians 6:20).
Whoever you are, whatever you look like, whatever disability you may have, you were made with the same holy purpose: to glorify God.

When we accept this, it’s liberating!



Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Relaxation Versus Meditation: What's the Difference?


Yoga classes, mindfulness, relaxation . . . . Which are connected with Eastern religions, and which are okay? Is it easy to draw a line?

It can get complicated, but there’s a solution that isn’t too hard. Examine any technique for three concepts:
  1. Does it involve emptying your mind or mental suggestions?
  2. Do you need to concentrate on self (breathing, your body, “centering,” etc.)?
  3. Do you have to have a coach or guide?


If you need any one of these, you should reject the technique. Why? We’ll take them in order:
  • Being in Christ is about a renewed mind that is filled with Truth. But ye have not so learned Christ; If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus: That ye put off concerning the former conversation (lifestyle) the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness (Ephesians 4:20-24). And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:2). A renewed mind is filled with and controlled by the Word of God.
  • When you concentrate on your self, you are acting contrary to the biblical concept of thinking on what God wants you to think about. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things (Philippians 4:8). Do you see self or your body in that list? Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me (Matthew 16:24). Followers of Christ deny self and follow the Lord.
  • When you need a guide, he actually tells you what to think, how to breathe, and talks into your mind whatever thoughts he wants you to have. Physical disciplines such as yoga require a yogi—a guide—for breathing, mind emptying, and they lead the person into a state of “mindfulness.” For a Christian, while there’s nothing wrong with stretching one’s body, there’s something very dangerous in being led into mind practices not based on biblical Truth. The Bible says, What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ (Ephesians 5:18-20). You can’t have an empty mind and be centering on your body and breathing while, at the same time, you're singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs in your heart and thanking God. It just doesn’t work!


On the other hand, there’s nothing wrong with relaxation techniques that don’t include those elements. There’s nothing wrong with simple calming down techniques—slowing your breathing when you have a panic attack, for instance. The Bible says, Be careful (full of care, anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7). In my experience—I have stress issues and panic attacks once in a while—this whole process works for me! Let’s list the steps:
  1. Don’t be anxious. Calm down.
  2. Pray. Tell the Lord about it.
  3. Ask. Let God know what you want from Him.
  4. Give thanks. End your prayer with a session of praise. That means you spend time in adoration of God and thanking Him for whatever He does on your behalf.


Look at the next thing in these verses: God promises peace . . . and not just any peace! He promises peace that passes understanding. And, that’s not all! It will keep your heart and mind. Wow! What a beautiful promise!

I find that it helps to read Scripture. Just read. At times of anxiety and stress, I like the Psalms, because many times the psalmist is pouring his heart out to God. He may be in a battle, or have enemies, or be persecuted, or afraid. By the end of the Psalm, he’s praising God. I let the Scripture wash over me and minister to my heart.

Do you feel stressed? Try the four steps above.

How about exercises? Is yoga okay? So many people differ on this. From what I have read, some yoga positions are impossible to achieve without Eastern religious meditation. Other positions are merely stretching and don’t require “mindfulness.” If you only stretch, there’s not a problem. If the practice involves the three concepts I mentioned in the beginning of this post, be wary!

The Bible says,
Thou (God) wilt keep him in perfect peace,
whose mind is stayed (focused) on thee:
because he trusteth in thee.

(Isaiah 26:3)

Friday, October 6, 2017

Followers?


We get emails and social media requests all the time. Follow me on Pinterest, Twitter, Google+, Instagram, Bloglovin, and all the rest. Follow me. I get it. I really do. After all, on this blog, you can choose to follow "In the Way" on several different media (red, on the right).

Recently, I’ve been reading through social media feed and seeing how some of my friends follow different kinds of input: political sources, preachers, causes, health advice, etc. Of course, everything is out there, and it’s so easy to click “like.” I looked up one of these sources. What does this preacher actually believe? What is he exactly? And, I was thinking, how many of us blindly follow? I don’t mean total blindness, you understand. I just mean we follow because our friend liked this person, and the video we watched or the blog we read made sense that first time. I’ve done it. Haven’t you?

The Bible is crystal clear about following God. Let’s just look at a few of the verses on this topic.
  • Ye shall walk after the LORD your God, and fear him, and keep his commandments, and obey his voice, and ye shall serve him, and cleave unto him (Deuteronomy 13:4).
  • Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me (Matthew 16:24).
  • My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me (John 10:27).
  • If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour (John 12:26).
  • But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness (1 Timothy 6:11).
  • Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation (Hebrews 13:7).
  • Beloved, follow not that which is evil, but that which is good. He that doeth good is of God: but he that doeth evil hath not seen God (3 John 1:11).

Following people—besides Jesus, of course—should always be limited. Every human being fails. Every person sometimes gives bad advice or makes a wrong judgment. So, the Lord gave us guidance about this in His Word.

The Apostle Paul was a great man. He had been educated in the best schools. He had a solid background in the Law of the Old Testament. He was religiously zealous in the extreme. When he met Jesus, his life was radically changed. He spent three years in the desert being taught by Jesus Himself. When he began his ministry, he was ready. He preached everywhere and suffered persecution. He was an effective missionary, starting churches all over Greece and Turkey. He went to Rome with the message of the gospel. He was inspired by the Holy Spirit to write most of the New Testament. Yet, Paul taught limits about how his followers should follow him: Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1).

When Paul preached, he urged his hearers to go home and compare his preaching with the Scriptures. Paul preached in the city of Berea. The Bible says about the people, These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so (Acts 17:11). They were eager listeners but not blind followers. What they heard compelled them to open their Old Testament Scriptures. God commends them for checking out Paul’s preaching.

Godly discernment doesn’t come easily. Usually, one has to read the Bible many times before he can make connections and judge clearly whether a concept is biblically sound or not. Some preachers and teachers sound good, but when you analyze what they’ve written and the things they’ve said, you might find they are teaching falsehoods and aren’t someone you want to follow. I can think of several women teachers who have said shocking statements over the years. (I had bought a whole set of Kindle books by one of them. When I found out she wasn’t sound doctrinally, I got rid of them.) We have to be careful! We have to know the Bible ourselves. We need to be discerning. When we find out that a teacher isn’t biblical, we need to side with the Scriptures. That’s what the Bereans did, and that’s what we need to do today.

Follow me?

Rather, follow Christ and the Bible. You’ll never go wrong with them!



Monday, October 2, 2017

When My Heart is Overwhelmed



To the chief Musician upon Neginah, A Psalm of David.
Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer.
From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee,
when my heart is overwhelmed:
lead me to the rock that is higher than I.
For thou hast been a shelter for me,
and a strong tower from the enemy.
I will abide in thy tabernacle for ever:
I will trust in the covert of thy wings.
 (Psalm 61:1-4)

A friend just lost her son. He was a beautiful young man, one of the most naturally talented people I have ever known. But, he has suddenly passed away. I grieve with his parents and siblings. I am overwhelmed.

I need something. I need to know how to pray.

God brought this phrase to mind. When my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I. That certainly describes me at this moment, when I’m beyond my means to understand or cope. You see, her son was the same age of one of our children. They were friends. They grew up together, went to camp together. This could so easily have been my child. His mother is my friend, a lady who always points me to Christ.

I need to go to the Rock. Who is this Rock?

The Scriptures are clear. These are just a few of many:
  • He is the Rock, his work is perfect: for all his ways are judgment: a God of truth and without iniquity, just and right is he (Deuteronomy 32:4).
  • There is none holy as the LORD: for there is none beside thee: neither is there any rock like our God (1 Samuel 2:2).
  • And he said, The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer (2 Samuel 22:2).
  • The LORD liveth; and blessed be my rock; and exalted be the God of the rock of my salvation (2 Samuel 22:47).
  • The LORD liveth; and blessed be my rock; and let the God of my salvation be exalted (Psalm 19:46).
  • In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God (Psalm 62:7).
  • And did all drink the same spiritual drink: for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them: and that Rock was Christ (1 Corinthians 10:4).

Jesus is the Rock! He is the God of my salvation, my fortress, and my deliverer. The Bible leaves no doubt.

When my heart is overwhelmed, I go to Him. He’s ready to hear my cry, but not only that: Jesus is able to give me what I need: shelter. What a concept! When I am grieving, when my heart doesn’t even know how to express itself, I cry out to Jesus, and He provides shelter. What a lovely word!

And that’s not all. He’s a strong tower from the enemy. I’m sure you’ve seen pictures of castles. They are always built on hills, and they have guard towers and turrets. Jesus is that guard tower. He looks out for us. He puts up that extra line of defense—when we are overwhelmed.



The following phrases present two more pictures: I will abide in thy tabernacle forever: I will trust in the covert of thy wings. The first is abiding in God’s tabernacle forever. This is speaking about an eternal trust—a future hope—of being in God’s habitation. We can think of this as heaven. The next one is really sweet. It speaks of chicks being covered with their parent’s wings. They’re all snuggled next to and covered up with those wings, protected.



That’s what God does for us. He gathers us to Him and holds and keeps us tight, sheltered, protected. Jesus looked over Jerusalem and said, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings (from Matthew 23:37).

My heart is overwhelmed, and I know where to go.

I will shelter.

  

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

"I will make you submit!"--Domestic Abuse in the Christian Sphere


I can’t tell you all their stories. I can’t reveal their names. But, you’d be surprised how many Christian women tell the story ... of abuse. Most are married, and their husbands claim to be Christians.

Let me stop right here. The word Christian means “follower of Christ.” Just keep that in mind while I continue.

Wifely submission is taught in the Bible. You can find it in: Ephesians 5:22-24; Colossians 3:18; Titus 2:5; and 1 Peter 3:1-6. The Greek word for submission is a military term which means “to arrange or rank under.”* This means that a woman voluntarily and joyfully agrees that she’s a different rank from her husband, because he's the designated head of the home. In other words, he’s the General, and she’s the Lieutenant General. “The buck stops here” applies to her husband. God holds him responsible for everything that goes on in his home.

According to the Bible, how is a man supposed to love his wife?
  • Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25).
  • With what attitude? Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them (Colossians 3:19).
  • Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (1 Peter 3:7).
How does Christ love the church? He sacrificed heaven for it. He gave His lifeblood for it. He eternally cares for it.

What does love mean? Charity (love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a).

We'll go to a too-common scenario: the husband isn’t pleased with his wife for some reason. He’s angry. He starts shouting, “You must submit to me! I will make you submit!”

What’s wrong with these statements? The first is a distortion—twisted use—of biblical truth, and the second is totally inappropriate and reprehensible. Yes, a wife is supposed to gladly submit the ultimate decision to her husband. The Bible doesn’t say she can’t disagree, state her opinion, or have her own ideas. The Bible doesn’t strip her of personhood and thinking for herself! Instead of yelling, a husband and wife can have an amicable discussion about any subject. Then, the husband has the last say, in the case of a difference of opinion. The wife gladly yields to his decision, because he will pay the consequences, good or bad. Does this make sense to you?

Let me share a true example: A man comes to the door of a house with a sad story. (By the way, he’s driving a luxury car with a garment bag hung in the back of it.) The husband answers the door. This man tells the husband that he has fallen into bad times. His wife is sick, and he needs money to get to a certain city. The husband immediately feels sorry for the man and promises him money, but he doesn’t have it on him; will the man follow him to the bank? As the husband puts on his jacket, the wife asks what is going on. She has a gut feeling that the man at the door is less than honest, but the husband is insistent; he wants to help the “poor” man. The wife agrees to disagree. Later, the husband does not get his money back—as the “poor” guy at the door promised—and he learns a lesson. The wife doesn’t say, “I told you so.” She doesn’t have to! Her husband has learned a life lesson. She submitted to her husband's wrong decision. It wasn’t forced. She expressed her gut feeling and opinion to him, and then she yielded the reins. 

When wives do this, men learn. When men learn, they trust their wives for wise advice. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her (Proverbs 31:11a).

Let’s go back to the husband who screams, “I will make you submit to me!” First, his angry tirade shows he's lost control. That is not walking in the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). It’s also not showing his wife love and honor. Yelling—even nose-to-nose “quiet yelling”—is an ugly way to interact. This is totally unacceptable behavior in God’s sight. And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity (2 Peter 1:5-7).

The home is designed to reflect the order in the Godhead. There’s a beautiful three-way parallel between the way God expresses submission in the Godhead, the church and the Lord, and husband and wife. Read these two passages:
          Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband (Ephesians 5:22-33).
          But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God (1 Corinthians 11:3).

Wow!

Let’s review God’s order. Look at 1 Corinthians 11:3, above: God—Christ—husband—wife. What did you notice here? Is Christ less than God the Father? No, but repeatedly, He submitted Himself to His Father. Is the woman less than the man? No. When God created Adam and Eve, He said they were “good.” Neither had more value than the other. This is about order.

What should you do if your husband demands submission, if he misuses and twists the Bible to cover up his own sins toward you? If your husband (or fiancé or partner) abuses you emotionally, verbally, and/or physically, you need to do two things:
  1. Report him. I recommend you confide in a trusted woman friend or close relative. If there’s physical abuse (which is a crime against your person), report it to the authorities. Call the police. Make a statement. Ask for a restraining order and protection. If you have children, get them out of the home while you do this.
  2. Do not accept his “I’m sorry” if you’ve left the home, gone back to give him another chance, and you’re beaten again. Get out! Yes, you probably love him and forgive him, but you are enabling his sins against you if you become his punching bag. 
If the abuse is “only” verbal and emotional, refuse to take it. It might mean sitting down with him and in a rational way explaining how you feel. Tell him, “It hurts me when you say ____________.” Give him a chance to repent. (Repentance means saying he’s sorry and not repeating the fault.) A man who is truly sorry will quit saying nasty things to his wife. If he continues to demean and put you down, it might mean you need to leave the home. If your husband is manipulating you to do things against your will, you may have to leave the home. Manipulation is abuse, too.

Submission is not about being made to do something against your will. Elizabeth George says, “Submission is a gift we give our husband.”

The statement, “I will make you submit to me” is not Christ-like, loving, or kind. It is not biblical. It’s just plain wrong.

If you are being abused, please get help. Reach out to someone you can trust. Report crimes against you, and leave a dangerous or abusive situation. Here’s the U.S.A. National Domestic Violence Hotline number, should you need it: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). If you live in another country, look for domestic abuse or violence phone numbers for your country.

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* The MacArthur New Testament Commentary, Ephesians. John MacArthur, Jr.